If you’re in the market for, or already dating a Nigerian woman then you know how truly wonderful, beautiful, and unique they are.
Nigerian women are hard-workers, classy, and take pride in their appearance. They also have very committed personalities and are raised to be both good providers and mothers for their own families.
So, if you’re looking to win a Nigerian woman’s heart, there are several must-know approaches and characteristics before you go diving in head first.
For starters, communication is very big for women in general, but, especially for Nigerian women in dating. In fact, most Nigerian men are raised to, or pick up on using body language quite frequently, both subtly and aggressively for communicating with other people, but, especially women.
If you are wanting to win your Nigerian lover’s heart then you need to have serious confidence, courage, and not be afraid or uncertain of yourself. Both hesitation and having an unusually agreeable personality will not only cost you points but, more than likely cause Nigerian women to stray away from you.
After all, Nigerian women are raised on survival and providing. Therefore, if they see you as a “weak link”, they will not envision or pursue a future with you. And, because most African women only date for “courting” purposes, chances are whether online or in person she will not waste her time on you if she is not genuinely interested.
How to Date Nigerian Women
The truth is, not only verbal communication but, also communication using body language can be very effective with a Nigerian woman. So, even on your first date if you are seriously interested, then do not hesitate to give a small wink, gesture, or touch like a hug to show her this affection or desire.
Showing her that you are attracted to her with non-verbal cues is great, just don’t be a creep, overly abrasive, or ignore signs that she is not interested. The last thing you want to do is touch her or flirt too much, and wind up scaring her off. Make no mistake, while women love confidence, of all the sincere and humble Nigerian women, the last thing you want to do is seem over-zealous, or, that you frequently get ‘handsy’ with women. After all, Nigerian women want a man with the class to create a future with, not a player or “suave” guy that has an answer for everything – which leads us to our next point.
Learning about African culture, and what it means to Nigerians, along with their country’s history and customs will greatly help you in not only winning over her heart but, also mutually falling in love. A Nigerian woman wants to feel secure, safe, knowing that you’re there for her – yet at the same time still giving her space to breathe and live her life. In a way, like all women, they can be complicated and hard to understand – this is why it’s so important to take your time.
Also, you’ll learn that securing a future with your Nigerian lover really is as ‘simple’ as getting to know each other better, and demonstrating to her that you can be her best friend and support her in times of need or peril. This, along with making the first moves and remaining confident, is sure to secure a happy future with the Nigerian woman of your dreams.
Additionally, learn to appreciate that because reputation means so much to Nigerian women, that, this also means she’ll seek out her friend’s approval or opinion of you. So, it would behoove you to likewise spend some time with her friends, getting to know them, and letting them get to know – the real – you. Her closest friends, much like her parents or pastor are going to ultimately dictate any future you’ll have together – as Nigerian women are traditional in this manner.
What to Expect from Your Nigerian Lover
Next, don’t be afraid to invite and introduce her to the things you also like to do, or the people you associate with and befriend. This will also allow not only you to get a second-hand perspective of how your loved ones feel about her, but, will continue to make her feel like an important, trustworthy person and part of your life – which is a huge plus.
When possible, pay special attention to not only simpler things like her favorite color or snack for a small gift later on, but, also the specific types of entertainment or hobbies she enjoys, and try to incorporate that into your next date. Also, know that not only are Nigerian women very fashionable, but, they also like to show off their man of their dreams to family, friends, neighbors, and while meeting new people.
So, if you’re really looking to ‘woo’ your Nigerian woman and date, take her to a more contemporary or fashionable environment.This will also give her the opportunity to feel like she can “flourish”, feel, and look her best for both you and herself. You see, it’s not so much that she wants to dress up and spend lots of time preparing to go out and show-off to others, but, more so she wants to show you that she has class, what it takes, and has pride in being your woman – which is great for the both of you!
When it comes to Nigerian women, also keep in mind that while they like a freedom of choice and independence, they do not want to feel ignored, or neglected. You should always make her feel like royalty to you, and do not, under any circumstances ever make the mistake of flirting with, or checking out another woman – especially sexually – in front of your Nigerian lover.
In fact, if this is your mentality now, change it. And if you cannot, then chances are a Nigerian woman is not for you. That is, as most live in close-knit communities, so, at one point or another you’re sure to get busted, embarrass her, her family, reputation, or your own – now is that really worth it?
Taking Things To The Next Level
If you’re going to attempt to make the most out of your Nigerian date, girlfriend, or bride, then, it’s also important to learn why, and how to give her space when necessary. Also, don’t be afraid to let her make the first move sometimes. So, whether or not it’s just merely offering to pay a bill, half, or initiate the next conversation, don’t hesitate in allowing her to do so.
Once again, this illustrates why it’s important for, at least the first few dates, to spend significant time letting your Nigerian girlfriend talk about herself, her life, and leave space for mystery about you as a person – they love this!
Remember, be creative, classy, and don’t be afraid to take control. Other pleasant, classy ways to give her control sometimes could be letting her lead you in a dance, or even juts guiding the conversation when you’re out with you and your friends – or on a double date. You should avoid putting her down, and don’t always agree with yourself or believe you’re right. Believe it or not, chances are you’re not, and, in the end, this type of attitude will never secure a long-term relationship with a woman.
You can make your Nigerian woman feel special, be generous, and be original without having to flatter her with expensive gifts, or drowning her by ‘flexing’ your wallet. The truth is, Nigerian women, want a husband that knows how to care and love for others, is generous and can think beyond materialism. That is, a man who is more family-oriented, moral, ethical, and ideally religious. These types of characteristics, interactions, and personality traits are more than likely to lead you to success in dating a Nigerian woman.
To sum things up, as you’ve probably heard before – especially with foreign women – regardless of what you’re used to, the truth is, a man that is well groomed, has a clean appearance, clothes, all the way down to fingernails and clean breath will do the best with a foreign woman or bridge. This, of course, includes a Nigerian woman. So, be practical, take good care of yourself, your appearance, and do not hesitate to be chivalrous towards your Nigerian date or woman.
Also, an attention to detail not only of yourself but also her will go a long way. And, while paying attention to specific details or things you like about her physically is always nice, it does not guarantee to flatter her – and could actually even offend her. This is a reminder, then, to again, be mindful and careful about what you say, respect her culture and traditions.
Finally, Nigerian women are very forward, so you should be too – especially about your intentions. Don’t make the first date too long, and be mature. Most importantly, you should realistically be ready for, prepared to talk about, and have your eyes on a marriage in the near future. Lastly, be yourself, and remember that African women love a man with a good sense of humor.